And I mean that in „only happy and nothing else“
no exhaustion, no anger, no frustration, no sadness
It’s simply not the reality of life
You’re here to live this human experience
I see this a lot in successful women
They fought their way to getting everything they desired
By being hard
By being perfect for everyone else
Here’s an example – I talked to a client yesterday,
she got everything she ever wanted: the perfect job, a partner she loves, a new amazing apartment
And now she feels depleted and cannot enjoy any of it
Suddenly this emptiness creeps in
As long as you reject this softness in you, this vulnerability, this need to do nothing, to retreat,
to weep your soul out
That long you’re denying yourself your wholeness
You’re saying to one part of yourself: „you don’t belong, you’re not part of me, I despise you“
Let me repeat:
You’re saying this to yourself
Because this part
is a part of you
If you wish to feel full, whole
To have it all
To be happy AND allowed to feel everything at the same time
You gotta accept that part in you that is struggling
Cause that is all it ever wanted
To be seen
To be heard
To be accepted
Nothing more
Nothing less
You’re opening up the portal to wholeness
Maybe you’re scared that you wouldn’t be perfect anymore
Maybe you’re scared that you would be less lovable if you are suddenly „weak“, if you are not functioning „as expected of you“
Maybe you’re scared that everything would fall apart
Because you are trying so hard to hold it all together
to control
So get over it
Let go
Like actually, let go
and admit to yourself that it’s actually okay
You’re actually allowed to feel it all
And that doesn’t make you less of a person
It makes you more of a person
It makes you a f·cking person! 🤷♀️
Spiritual traditions sometimes suggest that the goal is to transcend it all
Yes sure you can follow that goal
But what is then the point of your human-ness?
You have a body to feel
You have your five senses to experience
all of it
The entire spectrum of your human experience
And
Still be OK
Still appreciate
It all
As part of you
Part of the whole
So whatever you feel
It’s actually fine!
You have all the permission!
You are still loved
You still belong
You are safe
How does this land in you, dear?
What parts of this can you recognize yourself in?
Juli Kalyani 